The situation that you see before you today was created by you.  The anger, frustration or disappointment that you are holding onto thinking that it is some one else’s fault for why you are feeling the way you are feeling is — FALSE.  Let’s get over looking outside of ourselves thinking that the challenges or problems that we have were created by those around us. 

Listen I get it that it’s a hard pill to swallow because you’re perfect right?  You would never do anything to cause such frustration, right?  You would never put yourself in situations such as this, right?  WRONG…

Nothing Is Ever Outside of You

The honest truth is we all put ourselves in places that don’t feel the best.  That can cause us to feel like we are being done wrong.  To make us look at those around us and easily conclude that THEY are the problem.  This is putting the responsibilityfor our lives and emotions in the hands of other people and that just isn’t going to cut it.

If you want to grow, expand and ascend to higher levels in your life and yes your business too then it is very important that you look at yourself to find the answers you need and to change the reality that you see before you.  No one else can do it for you and no one else will do it for you.  This was a hard lesson for me to learn so I get it when women resist this idea that they are the main cause for their feelings of unhappiness, anger, frustration, etc.

But if you want to succeed in your business and in your life then it is a requirement that you deal with the monsters within you that are essentially keeping you stuck in a place that you don’ really care for.  This really hit home for me when I was watching the movie The Shack when God said to the Mac (the main character) – “The main reason why people stay stuck is because they don’t address those things within that need to heal.”

What do you need to heal?  Whom do you need to forgive?  What conversations do you need to have? 

You may be reading this wondering what the heck this has to do with business and let me just reassure you that this has EVERYTHING to do with business.  The way that you do life is the same way that you do business.  The way that you show up for yourself in life is the way that you show up for your clients.  So it’s fair to say that if you want to see further success in your business then you need to do the work within yourself so that you can have even more success.

The stuff within you that you don’t want to address is like a wound.  If you don’t tend to the wound you can get an infection.  Once you have the infection it will spread throughout to other parts of your body taking you down little by little over time.  Your emotional wounds do the same thing.  By not tending to them your relationships suffer, your business suffers because your clients don’t get the best of you and you walk around frustrated, second guessing yourself and confused as to why you can’t seem to just get it together.

I have always understood the importance of working on yourself and always seeking to improve but I didn’t fully understand HOW important this was until I started by business and getting the help that I needed to learn how to be successful.  No matter what course or program I took there was always an area where I had to address myself and work on my inner game.

I really hope that you get this and take it to heart.  In any given situation that you don’t like, especially if you can see that it’s a pattern, remember that the common denominator is always going to be you.  Take personal responsibility for your life, your emotions and your being and do the work that is necessary to create a better you.  Creating a better you allows for the other areas of your life to be better as well.

This work is paramount to the level of success that you will experience and it will also improve your relationships with in your personal life and business life. 

Today I want you to create some time in your schedule and write out all of the stuff that is going on inside of you that needs to be let out and released.  What needs to be healed?  Who do you need to forgive?  What patterns do you see in your life and business that you don’t like? 

Be compassionate with yourself when doing this.  Instead of being hard on yourself (like I know you can be) choose to hold no judgement and simply get curious as to why these things are coming up for you.  Journal it out and don’t stop writing until you feel that everything has been let out.

I would love to know what comes up for you or what resonates with you most so leave me a comment below and let me know.

I look forward to reading all of your comments. 🙂

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