Do you ever feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done? Being a wife, mom, career woman and mompreneur is enough to make anyone tired, yet there are so many of us (including myself) who are running full force withe this routine every single day. We have all heard about burn-out happening in our careers but the same thing can happen in our home life as a wife, mom and mompreneur. I decided to write this blog post because I see myself in this and quite honestly I felt lead to share my thoughts on this because I am pretty sure there is a mama out there who needs to read this. The Supermom Syndrome is a real thing that many women fight with everyday and may not even realize it. So what is The Supermom Syndrome? It’s a form of perfectionism that shows up in the lives of mommies all over the world, especially those who are driven and ambitious. A supermom will tend to set unrealistic expectations for herself around what we she “thinks” she should be able to accomplish in a day. This puts an additional layer of stress on a woman and makes it very difficult to keep up with the routine of getting it all done. In my own life I find myself doing this and at the end of the day feeling so frustrated because I didn’t get everything done that I thought I should be able to get done. Let me share with you my idea of a daily schedule as I work to build my business and show up for all the other responsibilities in my life. My thoughts are something like this, get up at 3:00 am and spend an hour and a half on my morning routine, at 4:30 am spend an hour working on my business, at 5:30 am get myself showered and dressed, at 6:00 am wake up my daughter (whose 5) and get her breakfast and dressed, out of the door by 6:45 am. I spend 9 hours at a job and then back home at 6:00 pm where I get dinner going, homework done, daughter bath, spend one-on-one time with daughter and put daughter to bed by 8:30 pm. Once she is in the bed I get my shower and at 9:00 pm spend an hour or so working on my business, spend some time with hubby and in the bed by 10:30 at the latest and back up again at 3:00 am. Whew!! Now this may sound good on paper but let me just say, trying to keep up this routine is not easy because by Wednesday my body and mind are exhausted and this is where the frustration kicks in. I am learning that it’s okay to not be on such a strict schedule every single day but to allow myself the flexibility to just do nothing and relax.
As women it is so natural for us to make sure everyone else is okay before we feel like we can take care of ourselves. It’s this mindset that causes us to create unhealthy habits in our lives like not working out, eating unhealthy food, not getting adequate sleep and not taking time to indulge in our own self care. When this happens you start to notice that you feel stressed, frustrated and impatient and this energy typically gets aimed at our kids and/or husband. Then we feel like crap for being so frustrated and inpatient. Our self-care should be on the top of our priority list because if we are not operating at an optimal level emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually then we cannot give the best version of our self to our family, work and/or business. If any of this resonates with you I want to provide you with seven (7) tips, tools and strategies to help you stay clear of The Supermom Syndrome.
- Create a morning routine that is relaxing , motivating and inspiring.
- Use the time while the kids are taking a bath or sleeping at night to read a good book or write in your journal.
- If household duties become overwhelming for you find a house keeper that you can have clean your house once a month.
- If you feel guilty about not spending enough time with your kids during the week then make it a point to set aside anywhere between 15-30 minutes of uninterrupted time for you to spend with your kids. In my house we call this Mya time.
- If grocery shopping takes up a few hours of your day see if your grocery store has the option to order your groceries online and then pick them up. My local grocer does and it frees up so much of my time and it allows me to get the shopping done without trying to keep up with a 5 year old in the store.
- Get out your calendar is set up regularly scheduled pamper days where you do something only for you. It could be a day reading, a mani/pedi, a massage, lunch with a friend, exercise or whatever makes you feel good. This is sacred time that should not be compromised.
- Don’t be too proud to recruit the help of your family or friends. It took me a long time to get over the idea of asking for help. Let your family or close friends watch your kid(s) for the day or half a day while you focus on getting some things done that are pressing.
I understand how difficult it can be when you feel like you have to do it all but I want you know that you don’t have to do it all and that doesn’t make you a bad mom, wife or business woman. It’s about finding harmony and doing what works for you to keep your stress level down.
If you are interested in creating a morning routine that is fulfilling I invite you to download my 7-Step Morning Manifestation Guidebook. This guidebook is FREE and literally walks you through the creation of your morning routine. I promise you that once you make this a habit your days will seem longer, you will feel in control and you won’t feel like you are neglecting anyone, especially yourself.
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Be blessed and put the cape down. 🙂
Kendra Kay Woods