AA Woman Fearful

Fear is a necessary emotion that is intended to keep us out of harms way.  When you experience the emotion of fear your body instantly decides if you will fight, flight, or freeze.  Your body reacts this way if you are in real life-threatening harm and when you are in self-induced fear; yes there is a such thing.  I used to be so good at inducing fear during situations when it wasn’t necessary and in the long run there was absolutely nothing for me to be fearful of.  When not kept in check fear can ruin your life in more ways than one.  Fear keeps you stagnant and it will hold your dreams hostage!  Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous.  We make ourselves believe that this “something” or “someone” will likely cause us pain or threaten our life.  The good news is we have it within us to recognize when our fear is self-induced and to immediately take steps to banish such fears. Use the four steps that I listed below to help you move from a place of  fear to a place of freedom. 

Step #1 – Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Maybe you have heard this before but growth only begins to happen when you are outside of your comfort zone.  When you move outside of your comfort zone fear can set in because you aren’t sure what lies ahead and you are not in a familiar place.  You begin to think of all the things that can go wrong and you get scared.  You think of retreating back to what you are familiar to.  If you take this route you end up right back where you started. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable when you try something new.  Understand that it’s part of the process, it’s normal.  Look fear in the face and keep pushing forward anyway.  The more you do this the more comfortable you get with being uncomfortable. 

Step #2 – Operate From a Space of Love 

Love is the complete opposite of fear.  It is impossible for you to be in a place of fear if you are operating out of a space of love.  So what does it mean to operate from a space of love?  It means to yield to that place within you that only God can occupy through developing a daily walk with Him. When you do this you begin to allow the love that He has placed inside of you to flow to others out in the world.  You develop compassion and patience with yourself which switches your mind from a place of scarcity to a place of abundance.  Making mistakes or being fearful that something will go wrong is replaced by all of the possibilities that begin to take shape within your mind. 

Step #3 – Look For the Lesson At All Times

Every situation or circumstance that occurs in life has a lesson tied to it. When things go wrong don’t dwell on the negative that happened, instead look for the lesson to be learned.  Once you find the lesson you can move forward confidently knowing that you are even more equipped to handle life’s challenges.  The more you practice this concept  the better you will become at finding the lesson behind the situation.  It’s important to remember though,   sometimes our lessons don’t show up right away.  When you are still close to a situation and in the  mist of all the emotions that go along with it, it can be difficult to discern the lesson.  It may be months before you realize what you are supposed to learn.  Don’t let that discourage you, always be on the look-out for the lesson.  It is true that you can build a wonderful life for yourself by looking at your mistakes and making sure you don’t make the same mistakes again 

Step #4 – Get Out of Your Head 

What does this really mean anyway?  I have been told this before at a job I used to work at.  I was told that it seemed like I was in my head.  I never really understood what the heck that meant.  I mean what does a person look like who is in their head?   It took me a while to understand this statement but I figured out what it means and it is an important statement to understand when you are in a place where you are allowing fear to rule your life.  When a person is in their head they will over analyze every situation particularly those situations that are new to them.  The issue with over analyzing is that you remain stagnant or you move to a decision very slowly.  This can appear to others that you are not confident in your abilities or that you aren’t sure what you’re doing.  When you are in a situation that is new to you and fear creeps in do not over analyze the situation, simply make a decision and move on.  Shut down the negative chatter of your mind by taking action.  If you make the wrong decision, so what, what’s the worst that can happen.  You will still be alive and you will have learned what not to do. 

Know that the kind of fear we find ourselves in whether it’s starting a business,  starting at a new job,  or speaking in front of people, is the kind of fear that we manufacture ourselves through the thoughts we have.  It’s so important to know and understand that we are the ones in control of our mind and how we choose to see certain situations.  Walking in this understanding is pure freedom but it take practice. 

If you want to learn how to master your mind and become the Mind Boss you are meant to be get started with my FREE resource  called the 7-Step Morning Manifestation Routine. This is my morning routine that I do every morning to get my mind ready for the world.  It includes the seven activities that I do along with a recommendation of resources to use to make your morning routine successful. 

I am also offering a FREE 30-minute clarity session to help you create some clarity in your life about where your life is going.   In a nutshell I help women get their mind right so that they can lead a live they love and deserve. Reserve your time today by emailing me at kendra@kendrakaywoods.com. 

Be Blessed!





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